Celebrating Dezemba: enjoying the festivities mindfully
Dezemba in South Africa is a time like no other. The sun’s blazing, the braais are sizzling and the air is buzzing with celebrations.
From reconnecting with family to indulging in long-standing traditions, this is the season of joy, laughter and togetherness. But let’s be real — Dezemba also carries a darker side.
South Africa has a long-standing challenge with alcohol overindulgence and the festive season often sees a spike in risky behaviours like drinking and driving, heightened conflict at gatherings and even traumatic experiences.
This article isn’t about dampening your holiday spirit — far from it! It’s about striking a balance. Let’s ensure we all make it to 2025 safely, celebrating life while being mindful of the consequences of alcohol abuse.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), South Africans consistently rank among the top alcohol consumers globally, with binge drinking being a significant concern.
The festive season often amplifies this as many people use alcohol to unwind and reconnect.
But here’s the catch: while a glass or two can help loosen up conversations, overindulgence can lead to impaired judgment, emotional instability and risky behaviours like driving under the influence (DUI).
Statistics from Arrive Alive, a road safety initiative, show that alcohol-related incidents spike in December, contributing to higher road accident and fatality rates.
So, how do we enjoy Dezemba without falling into the trap of alcohol misuse?
Navigating festive gatherings mindfully
Alcohol doesn’t have to be the focal point of your celebration. With a bit of planning and intentionality, you can create a safe, inclusive, and enjoyable environment for everyone.
To help us unpack this, Meandrie Bridges, a psychological counsellor at the Journey Recovery and Wellness Centre, shares practical tips on how to minimise alcohol-related risks this festive season.
Before and during the gathering
Set clear expectations: Communication is key. Discuss boundaries and expectations with family or friends beforehand. This could include agreeing on no excessive drinking, discouraging risky behaviours or even having an alcohol-free day during the festivities.
Designate a sober host: Appoint a family member or friend to be the "sober champion" for the day. Their role? To stay sober and ensure everyone’s safety, from managing alcohol consumption to arranging safe rides home.
Plan engaging activities: Alcohol often becomes the centre of attention when there’s little else to do. Introduce activities like board games, karaoke, outdoor sports, or even a family talent show. These moments create laughter and connection without relying on alcohol.
Tips for during the festivities
Monitor alcohol use: Be mindful of how much alcohol is being consumed. Someone noticing when things are starting to spiral can make all the difference.
Offer non-alcoholic options: Stock up on delicious non-alcoholic beverages. Think mocktails, sparkling juices, or infused waters. Having these alternatives readily available gives everyone the option to enjoy a drink without the alcohol.
Watch for warning signs: Keep an eye on signs of impairment, such as slurred speech, unsteady movement, or aggressive behaviour. Intervening early can prevent unnecessary escalation or harm.
Respect boundaries: Some people may choose not to drink at all — and that’s perfectly okay. Respecting these boundaries creates a welcoming environment for everyone.
Focus on family traditions: Dezemba is about more than just the drinks — it’s about love, laughter, and shared traditions. Lean into the positive aspects of family gatherings.
Whether it’s a Christmas Eve dinner, storytelling sessions, or a family soccer match, prioritising these moments over alcohol can bring everyone closer.
The matriarchs and patriarchs of the family often play a crucial role in setting the tone for gatherings. Their support and guidance can help reinforce boundaries and ensure that the focus remains on togetherness rather than excessive drinking.
The emotional impact of alcohol misuse
It’s essential to recognise that alcohol misuse doesn’t just affect the individual — it impacts everyone around them.
Uncontrolled drinking can lead to conflicts, emotional distress, and even trauma. For children, witnessing alcohol-fuelled arguments or reckless behaviour can leave lasting scars, sometimes manifesting as anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in adulthood.
As we countdown to 2025, let’s make intentional choices that prioritise safety, connection and joy. Alcohol doesn’t have to be the star of your celebration.