'He’s not letting me go!' An unusual love triangle and co-parenting affair

A TikTok video by South African creator Paki Lawu as part of his “Confessions” series has ignited a heated debate on social media after an anonymous woman shared details of her affair with a married man.

The video is part of Lawu’s "Confession" series, where South Africans reveal their deepest secrets anonymously. The post, with over 1.1 million views and counting, has garnered significant attention and mixed reactions about relationships, fidelity, and family dynamics.

The woman confessed to meeting the married man at their workplace, where the affair began.

During a work team building trip, she fell pregnant and later gave birth to their child. Despite his marital status, the man continues to maintain relationships with both the woman and his wife.

“He's still with his wife, and he's still with me as well. We are raising our kid together,” she said.

When asked whether the wife knew about the affair, the woman confidently stated, “She does know. Women know.” She suggested that the husband's refusal to end the affair has contributed to the situation, adding, “He’s not letting me go, so I think that is also why I stayed.”

Regarding her own feelings about the arrangement, she explained, “He was already married. I am not here to replace the wife; there was nothing I could do. They were already married and had kids together, so I am just there like a +1.” Despite the slightly unconventional nature of the relationship, she described herself as “very happy.”

The confession has sparked intense discussions online, particularly after one TikTok commenter, @Rodi345, claimed, “The wife had long accepted the affair because her secondborn is not the husband’s child.” This comment, which received thousands of likes, has added another layer to the complex narrative.

Social media users have expressed divided opinions, with some condemning the affair as a betrayal and others recognising the unconventional arrangement as a reality for some families.

User @morning.annah commented that “I can hear the voice and the giggles… the lights are on but no one is home!!”@desircloset commented “I’m so happy I went to therapy and learned to love myself because low self-esteem will have you thinking a married man loves you.”

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